princessordie asked: I definitely see where you're coming from with the slut shaming thing!!! You made some valid points but I think that part of the purpose of anti slut-shaming is that being a slut isn't a bad thing. Part of the point is to take the negative connotations and power away from the world slut. Like, if being promiscuous = being a slut, but being promiscuous isn't a bad thing, then being a slut is also not a bad thing, therefore slut isn't a bad thing to call someone. (: that's just my take, anyway.
I definitely see what you are saying :) I just feel like it’s an endless cycle because of the fact that the intentions of the person who is slut shaming. I find it weird for me to use another word that typically has a negative connotation to defend someone else, but I know that’s just how my mind works. I would just personally prefer to stick up for the person without using another term to encompass what I was trying to say. I definitely don’t think that using the term slut-shaming is bad, I just personally wouldn’t use it. It was a weird personal issue I had pop up in my head this morning :) I enjoyed your view though!
So I looked up a short answer to what “slut-shaming” is and I came up with this: “Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings. Furthermore, it’s ‘about the implication that if a woman has sex that traditional society disapproves of, she should feel guilty and inferior’ (Alon Levy, Slut Shaming).” - Finally a Feminism 101 Blog
While this term is supposed to help empower women, I can’t help but feel it does the exact opposite. In my head you are literally calling the people involved sluts therefore reaffirming societal beliefs. If I were to say that you were slut-shaming Suzie Q, I would basically be saying that you were shaming a slut (Suzie Q). I can’t help but feel that by using this term you are confirming that society is correct in viewing woman’s sexuality the way it does. I suppose that most people view this term with the negative connotations of the word “slut” removed, but they are still present in today’s society. Therefore it is still hurtful no matter how you spin it. It would be similar to someone taking the racial slur “nigger” and saying that another person is “nigger-shaming” a woman with African American decent instead of “racially discriminating” against her. I understand that most people are trying to change the meaning of these words, but I feel that there will always be one person who will use it in a negative way.
I guess I personally don’t understand the need for a label to support the ability for woman to openly talk about their sexuality and actually be sexual. I just openly support sexual equality between men and women without needing to sum up my feeling on it through a term or two.
You don’t have to agree with me because I understand that everyone has a different view. If you are offended then I suppose you don’t need to read or look through my blog.
***Felt the need to add that you can use what ever term you want, I just have an issue using this for myself. This was my way of externalizing how I felt about the word, but if it works for you, then go for it.****
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